🧚‍♂️10 Pieces of Life-Changing Advice I’d Give To My Younger Self ASAP

Self-help sells too well.

It’s like any other industry attempting to lure consumers into ‘changing their life’ and ‘find their passion’.

It works extra well because everyone needs help in some sort of way.

It’s full of dopamine hits luring readers on a high expecting to witness massive revolutionary seismic change after attending a $500 Robbins event on failure or listening to Mylett’s podcast about taming the voice in your head.

How profound.

Yet nothing changes if you don’t change and that’s the biggest secret that is hidden from consumers.

From fixing your mental state to overcoming addiction, nothing will work if there’s no action.

I’m going to be honest with you. I’ve always loved self-help and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this genre as long as you know it’s an ordinary product/service that tries to promise something that doesn’t yet exist.

As I reflect on my youth having turned 20 last Thanksgiving, this milestone has made me feel no different except for the fact that I now know I need to stop consuming and start producing more.

I haven’t taken more action in my whole life than I did during quarantine. I sold a company, started a blog, dabbed at a failing podcast, learned to drive (as a native New Yorker this is impressive), learned to cook anything that doesn’t require a microwave and for some reason finally have come to understand all the gibberish and mostly trash I’ve been reading that just goes out one ear out the other.

So without further or do, whether you are 20 or 64, here’s some advice you won’t regret spending your time digesting:

#1 Most people spend money on things they don’t need for people they don’t like or even worse, know!

#2 “When you’re 20 you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 30 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place. You have enemy? Good. That means as you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”

#3 There’s no timeline. Don’t rush anything. You can’t plan nor time your way through life because there are too many unknowns. The hardest part is starting so go for it and you’ll adjust. See what sticks.

#4 Invest in you and other people. You are the average of the people you are with so choose wisely.

#5 It’s okay to say no, even when you are young. You have an abundance of time and it should be used extra carefully.

#6 Don’t follow your passion, let it come naturally. Don’t chase it.

#7 Develop self-control and resist quick hits of dopamine and serotonin. Instead develop them naturally through the great outdoors, setting expectations and controlling what you consume.

#8 Add humor into your day. Always makes it better, I promise. Humor is a sign of intelligence.

#9 Get a little bit better each day. That’s it.

#10 If you do nothing, no one will say anything but that doesn’t lead you closer to your goal. Immediately when you start doing something, people get jealous because they’re too lazy to start. They want to push you off your path. Judgement, trolls and criticism mean you’re doing something right. If you didn’t do anything, no one would say anything.

#11 Luck plays a huge role in success. The more successful one is, the more luck they’ve obtained over their career.

Success = Preparation meets opportunity

#12 Ask for what you deserve, never wait because you’ll be waiting forever

#13 There’s no right time to do anything. You’ll adjust. Life is like play dough-you mold and let things stick and experiment as they go

#14 You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

#15 The people you love will give you the best advice. Professionals don’t know everything

#16 Comparison is the theft of joy. People go into a lot of debt to impress others so don’t bother. The grass usually isn’t greener on the other side.

#17 People remember you for how you made them feel not what you told or gave them.

A little over 10. Opps! That’s my style.

I hope you can take some of these nuggets of wisdom and let them guide you.

Remember, if you don’t try them out yourself or make a conscious effort to remember them, you just wasted your time!

Cheers.

Mia