When you ask people for advice, most of the time itâs corny, not helpful and just an ego booster.
Whatâs the point of offering compliments if Iâm looking to grow?
I want to hear what I donât want to hear to actually move the needle.
This is called constructive criticism but there are only so many masters who can actually do it correctly.
I donât blame people. We are scared of rejection, judgement and loosing a connection that we want to be nice to that person, not risking separation.
But would you rather regret not helping them through honesty or making them feel not terrific?
Instead of an opinion, I want advice. I seek it from people I trust which is about 4â7 people max. I donât have many friends for a reason.
Quality > Quantity.
It doesnât matter how long Iâve been with them, it matters that whenever I meet with them, they are genuine, honest, raw, sincere and know how to show empathy with realism. Never ask for unsolicited advice, especially women, we get it spoon-feed all the time.
These 20 snippets of rules have been given to me during my 20 year life span and Iâve manifested all because they are the most relevant.
I stay true to them daily and theyâve helped me turn into an unordinary 20 year old.
You can read here what that entails.
Just because Iâm older or younger than you, doesnât mean they wonât apply in your life. The sad thing is, I know most of you will read this and move on with life not attempting to try to adopt at least 2 pointers.
Could you do me a favor, save your time and make a change?
Write back to me in a few weeks and I canât wait to see where youâve come.
Letâs get started.
#1: Thereâs no 1 right answer to everything or anything
#2: Donât have a to do list, have a âget itâ list
#3: Rate everything from 1â10, without 7
#4: You regret the things you didnât do than the things you did do
#5: The reason you feel anxious all the time is because you are a people pleaser
#6: Hard work wonât always pay off and youâll get nowhere but at least youâll learn
#7: The secret is that thereâs no secret
#8: Say no (a lot)
#9: Focus on making progress not outcomes
#10: Comparison is the theft of joy
#11: Thereâs no passion without purpose
#12: Belief in yourself is overrated, find evidence
#13: Make things easiest as possible
#14: Ask yourself, is this necessary?
#15: Having thinking periods, think about thinking
#16: What if I wasnât scared?
#17: What if I put in 110% into everything that was most meaningful to me. Where would I be?
#18: If itâs not worth stressing out about in 5 years, then its not worth it for 5 seconds
#19: Quality of your mind = quality of your life
#20: Everything you feel and say is in your control
Cheers,
Mia